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The Sandwich Generation Needs to Talk to Their Parents About Aging at Home

Are you part of the Sandwich Generation? These are people with a child at home, an adult child who returns home, and/or a spouse/partner at home, who are also caring in some way for a parent. You’re sandwiched between caring for one generation and another.

 

Homecare in Orem UT: Aging at Home

Homecare in Orem UT: Aging at Home

 

It may not seem like much, but it can be incredibly hard emotionally and financially. It can even cause physical strain if you’re lifting parents out of a tub or shower, out of bed, or in and out of a wheelchair multiple times per day. You need to talk to your parents about their goals in terms of aging.

 

Why Plan Ahead?

It may seem awkward to plan for the worst case. After all, your parents may be active and healthy for many years. Why bother planning ahead?

While it’s uncomfortable talking about the negatives of aging, it’s also important. As one family learned, postponing the discussion caused a rush of planning when they were most stressed. Their mom was in the early stages of dementia, but their dad was healthy.

One evening while getting into bed, he had a seizure. Doctors found nothing concerning. Days later, he had a stroke. Doctors ran more tests and found a brain tumor. Their healthy father was dying and doctors couldn’t do anything to stop it. His stroke led to pneumonia that ended his life.

The siblings were all under the age of 50. While grieving, they had to figure out how to balance the care their mom needed with their children, jobs, and household management. The stress was extreme. They tell everyone they know to plan in advance as a precaution.

 

What Do You Need to Talk About?

Ask your parents what their plans are? Do they want to stay in their home or have they thought about downsizing in a new town, city, state, or country? If they want to downsize, what is stopping them from doing so while they’re healthy?

If they want to age at home, have they thought about what happens if one of them needs a wheelchair? Is the house set up for wheelchair use? Would costly improvements be needed? What happens if they can no longer drive? Are they close enough to friends and family that rides would be easy to find?

How do they feel about senior care services? If the day comes when they need help, would they expect the family to help out or would they feel like a burden? Could you quit your job, reduce work hours, or balance your work with their care?

Once you know what plans are, call a senior care agency. Ask about the most popular services and make sure your parents wouldn’t benefit from weekly visits to help with meals, transportation, housekeeping, or laundry. Find out senior care prices before you hang out. You’ll feel better if you’re prepared.

 

Are you or a loved one considering hiring Homecare in Orem, UT? Please talk to the friendly staff at December Rose Senior Care at Home. Providing Home Care in Highland, Utah and Surrounding Communities. 801-427-ROSE (7673)

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Alan and Stephanie Jones, Owners

December Rose Senior Care is a local in-home care agency owned and operated by Alan and Stephanie Jones in Highland, Utah. While both Alan and Stephanie bring professional and practical experience to their business, it has been the fulfilling and educational aspects of assisting their parents through the aging process as well as raising their five children that encouraged them to start a personal care agency. In particular it was the humbling experience of caring for a special needs son and moving a parent from in-home care to assisted living that helped them realize there are many families who are caring for loved ones that need help. Their desire is to combine these experiences with over twenty years of medical sales and marketing, eleven years working with senior and elder populations among our Veterans and Native Americans, serving on multiple school boards and local legislative roles, to develop in-home care that exceeds expectations and honors seniors as the foundation of this country.
In their spare time, Alan and Stephanie are all about family and enjoy So. California beach vacations, watching their children’s sporting events, reading, participating in church and community activities, watching favorite shows together, participating in Boy Scouts, running and yoga.

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